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These Reddit stories get messy and uncomfortable fast. One friend is sick of hearing about a weight loss journey that never starts, while another person watches years of healthy habits slowly unravel. Let’s get into it!
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I'm with OP. He might have been harsh, but sometimes you need a cold shower to get back to reality. The friend essentially puts all of the burden or at least, the mental burden on OP. Sorry but if you won't turn up for yourself, no one will. We all have our own problems.
Also, weight loss is a very personal thing. Unless somethings clicks for you, you won't do it no matter how much support you have.
Being around a negative friend like that who only complains can be draining. I have no problem with fat people that are ok with being fat. But if you don't like it and you keep complaining without taking any action, then what do you want me to do?
The friend needs to man up and get his shit together.
So that ‘work in silence’ thing rings true for me as well. The time I just decided finally that it’s now that I will start exercising several days a week. I just did. I used madfit and her videos helped me so much. It’s been a year of working out two-three times a week and it finally started because I just did. Didn’t make it a thing with my husband or friends. I just started.
Nah i don’t care about how he delivered that the day friend was an. A -hole so yes he has every right to be rude to him
15:30 as a Catholic, people sometimes wonder what the "best" prayers are. While there are some answers to this, it was often said that the best is the one you'll say. If one speaks to you, so be it, say that one. Funny to hear it said about food, but so true about so many things.
I'm so happy you showed your adorable corgi in action! So sweet that he got to keep his tail! 💗💖
I understand how frustrating it is to hear the same things over and over again, but the honest truth of the matter is that moat people need a catalyst to jimp start their weightloss. When I saw the scales tipping closer to 300 than 200 I was mortified. When I nearly couldn't fasten airplane seatbelts without an extender, I about near passed away. And finally, when I saw my older brother lose 140 pounds in a year and completely change his life around I knew. I knew that I had had enough. And if our man is neurodivergent/ADHD/autistic? We may as well be Atlas holding the weight of the world on our shoulders with a commitment like that. Yes it gets annoying but realistically, the only person they harm by not starting is themselves.
I gained a ton of weight a few years ago…around 40 pounds. It was depression. This weird thing took over my brain where I was almost trying to harm myself with food. I would fill my plate with food until it was overflowing and I would shove it in my mouth and eat it as fast as possible. I wouldn’t even take time to chew it properly. I wasn’t even hungry. I was just angry at myself. It was weird.
Side eyeing eating half a duck on the weekend…. the way hubby and I eat!! But we have balance. All week is like picking at food strict low eating but Saturday is family market eat out! Like we eat once on Saturday and that's it. Whole peeking duck on the table to share and combination pork and rice each and lo mei to share
As someone that is actively working on reclaiming their holistic health, I strongly recommend starting with eating a clean diet, minimizing liquid calories and getting your steps in – every – single – day.
No, i need to scull water. I hate drinking water and now you want to torture me by sipping it? Wtf is wrong with people 😅
I’m on almost a year of my fitness journey, and one thing that changed my outlook on fitness completely was the concept of training right up until failure. When you lift weights, the entire concept is to lift the weight repeatedly and stop when you are right about to fail. Meaning, when you cannot lift the weight anymore. That’s how you know it’s working. And you can apply this to ANY form of exercise, not just weight-lifting.
So if someone works out once and chooses to stop because they’re too sore the next day, they’re completely missing the point. It’s okay to be sore when you work out. It’s okay to show up to a workout and only give 10%. Sometimes that’s all your body can and SHOULD do. You don’t let it make you feel like a failure because the entire idea of working out is doing it until you can’t anymore. Once I realized that, I never stopped working out.
Honestly, someone says medically obese, and I imagine someone who is smaller and they are MEDICALLY DIAGNOSED obese because they have no muscle tone and it's all fat and METABOLICALLY they are OBESE, compared to someone who seems larger but actually has way less fat on their muscles and organs (because they are actually all muscle) so, yeah.
I’ve had people give me the straight up honest truth about something I’ve been wanting to change a long time, and it is extremely painful in the moment to receive criticism, but sometimes it can really empower you. Not because you come to some divine, starry eyed realization that you “had the power all along,” but you realize that complaining does absolutely NOTHING for you, except to either garner useless sympathy from people, or garner people’s negative outlook on you.
And the real kicker is, sometimes hearing the truth can actually cause a big rift between you and the person who was straight with you. You might go on to completely change yourself, but now you have the lovely task of mending the friendship that started to crack while trying to get there. It doesn’t always happen, but it can very hard to realize that someone’s been holding in the truth about how they feel about you for so long.
The first example makes me think of how strong the victim mentality is on Reddit. So many doomers who have given up, blame others for their issues, and/or refuse to take control of their lives or an issue live there. And then they hate those who do fight for a better future (for example, they really don't like Greta Thunberg or her work to improve the environment).
The advice I'd give to people is to simply microdose exercise like you would any other daily habit. Versus long gym sessions and endless cardio which cause burnout.
1) Do just 1 compound lift per day.
2) Work in walks over the day.
Just these two things alone mixed with a higher protein diet, drinking more water, etc goes a long way, and it's way less of a time commitment, making it sustainable and consistent.
You should make a video on the Sysco takeover of every restaurant.
Sounds like someone is making their friend responsible for their personal health rather than themself.
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I don't trust people who meal prep.
1:16 why I got hipnotized by a dog and wind noises? Tf
I'm watching this on the tomorrow
You asked about being thin and fit and then getting fat.
When I was in my 20s to early 40s I was thin and fit because I had an extremely physical job ( unloading trucks for example) when I switched to a better paying job that was very sedentary, I didn’t change how I ate because I had never been overweight, I was eating as much as my spouse, who is male and a foot taller than me. I gained 30 pounds then another 10 pounds . I’m 5’2” and always weighed between 108 and 115 max except when pregnant, and found myself weighing 160 pounds.
Right now, I’m in my 70s and weigh between 125 and 130, if I don’t exercise and track my calories I easily gain weight these days.
Also I don't think yelling at people automatically makes OP the asshole. I think the yelling was warranted in this case, especially because it seems like he was at his wit's end
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This is even more complicated when the overweight person is someone in your immediate family. You can't just write it off and forget about it, bc this is someone you care deeply about. You don't want to seem like you're nagging. You try to help (cooking healthy meals, doing work-outs together, etc), and then get really frustrated when the other person feels less motivated and less invested than you. They do really well for awhile and then just give up, and eventually the cycle starts over again.
So as someone who has been obese most of my adult life, I remember talking to my friend once about my struggles,when I was younger.. Her advise was…'just eat omelettes,they are super healthy, just eat omelettes and you will be thin' and I know her advise wasn't nasty, but it's like – so if I want to be thin, I can eat nothing but omelettes my entire life?!? And what got me the most was she hates eggs so wouldn't even dream of eating one omelette, let alone eating them for every meal, every day of her life 🤣 I get she was trying to be helpful,but when people are naturally slim, trying to give someone naturally overweight advice it was just a face palm to put it nicely….. Personally I have a huge skull, huge hands, massive feet. I'm born to be bigger, bone wise anyway, and yes I'm very active with work and still working on weight but in a much better place now than when I was younger. Yes I eat omelettes but not all day every day 🤣 it's all about balance.
I don't know you didn't mean it like that and that father's involvement in their children is less common where you're from. But could you next time say "parent" instead of "mom", just to help normalise men being involved 🙏
you're the real change
The best help you can give is helping someone find their “why.” I lost 60 pounds to spite my ex (NOT healthy); a friend of mine lost half her body weight and when I asked how she stayed motivated? “What if one of my kids gets in trouble and I’m physically unable to save them? What if they need me when they’re older but I ate myself to death?”
At the time I chuckled. Upon reflection I see her words as profound. Momento Mori, but make it about helping others
I have the opposite problem. I am always offering help to my friend but she refuses it. So much so that she told me she gets upset when . She told me never to ask her about her weight again.
As someone who has taken many health education courses for my bachelors, I KNOW what I'm supposed to eat to have optimal nutrition. I KNOW how much more I'm supposed to be moving every day. I am so far from optimal that I've been losing hope of ever meeting my goal weight 😢 Thank you so much Kiana for the reminder that I just need to make choices that I can actually do, TODAY! 🎉 Here's to the small steps 😊
cute…..did you go to the hairdresser miss K. ?
This is a difficult topic for me. I've been the skinny kid until I was 27y old. I was always able to eat whatever I want and how much I want without gaining weight but when my studies at university came to a halt and I didn't have to walk to my lectures anymore, I became a recluse who drank around 2 litres of sweetened chocolate cappuccino every day. I also got into drinking alcohol way to much and way too frequent. Three years later, at the age of 30, I got my first chronic illness that I still battle with to this day. Over the following years it got worse until I started dieting which helped me drop 20kg but eventually I was sick of the diet and regained all my weight plus some extra kg. I then repeated this cycle about 4 or 5 times. I even got into exercise finally and my bodybuilder friend who always poked my biceps told me I will look like a beast if the fat around the muscle melted. Still not enough… I got fat again, topping at 147kg. Thanks to Mounjaro I dropped around 30kg over the last year without having to force myself through a diet or go exercise. My depression is also gone because of that mysterious anti-fat jab. It was a great year for me but now more health problems arise yet again. I feel terrible and my doc made me stop with the Mounjaro to see if that is the cause of my problems. If it turns out to be the problem, I will get fat again without a doubt. And if my previous attempts at losing weight taught me anything it's that the older you get, the more you have to force the change. I cannot imagine I will ever be getting into sports or dieting again. I shall give up and become fat and depressive again because the other way is just too brutal for me. It's high stress for a low reward. I envy the people who don't have such a toxic relationship with food and who enjoy exercise. I never got runners high or an overtly powerful sense of self-consciousness from exercise or losing weight… this is all so frustrating. I'm praying to all the gods that I won't need to drop the Mounjaro. 🙁